Dear Jewish Food Hero,
I feel guilty saying this, but I really don’t enjoy Purim. It’s supposed to be a fun, happy holiday, but it’s ruined every year by the fact that my husband gets drunk pretty early in the day and I get stuck with the all the responsibilities – sending out Mishloach Manot*, cooking for the meal, taking care of the kids, serving the meal, cleaning up, etc. And on top of all of that, I have to keep an eye on him, to make sure he doesn’t do anything dangerous. All the joy of the holiday is lost on me and I start dreading it around Tu B’Shvat!
How can I make Purim better this year? Do you have any tips for connecting to the essence of the holiday in spite of the situation?
From: Jewish woman looking for a Purim miracle
*Mishloach manot (Hebrew: משלוח מנות literally, “sending of portions”; also called a Purim basket, are gifts of food or drink that are sent to family, friends and others on Purim day. The mitzvah of giving mishloach manot derives from the Book of Esther. It is meant to ensure that everyone has enough food for the Purim feast held later in the day, and to increase love and friendship among Jews and their neighbors.
Dear Jewish woman looking for a Purim miracle:
It is no wonder that you are not enjoying your Purim experience. It sounds like you are alone taking care of your children and all the holiday responsibilities while your husband is drinking.