Jewish Food Hero’s 7 Health Tips to Make Hanukkah More than Just an Annual Greasy Mess

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During the 8 days of Hanukkah, we can make the food healthier and still enjoy the holiday foods.

Lets honor our bodies and the environment this Hanukkah by including more whole plant-based foods on our tables. Let’s eat more fruit, vegetables, tubers, legumes, and whole grains this Chanukah/Hanukah.

Here are 7 simple food tips for our healthier Hanukkah.

Serve cut up apples as an appetizer

The benefits of serving cut apples as an appetizer are multi-layered. First, you incorporate a part of your daily serving of fruit into your meal for a complete diet. Second, next to vegetables, fruits are a high density, low calorie food. Although apple’s take up a lot of physical space in your stomach, they do not contain a lot of calories. On average one medium-sized apple has about 95 calories. What does this mean? If you eat an apple for your appetizer you are less likely to overeat during the main course of your meal.

Bake your latkes instead of frying

If you choose one of these healthy tips, let it be this one. Please, bake your latkes instead of frying. Frying foods introduces partially hydrogenated oils into your diet and it has a number of negative health associates. Fried oils have to be heated to a high temperature, this causes oxidation of the oils and starches produce Advanced Glycation End products. This is a fancy term for your food becomes carcinogenic. Avoid over consuming fried foods whenever you have the choice.  If you are looking for a baked latke recipe, you can find it right here.

Add a salad to your table

Adding a salad to your table provides a number of the same benefits as the apple appetizer, high density foods that take up space but do not have high caloric values associated with them. The other benefit, fiber, we all need more fiber during heavy holiday meals to help everything digest smoothly.

Bake your sufganiyot instead of frying

Over consuming fried foods is bad enough for your health it’s worth mentioning twice. Bake your typically fried foods for a significantly healthier Hanukkah season. Your stomach and your family will thank you.  If you are looking for a baked sufganiyot recipe, there is one in this Jewish cookbook.

Make your own applesauce instead of serving store bought

When you choose to make your own foods at home, you have so much more control of the ingredients you put into the recipe. Making your own applesauce allows you to pick the quality of the apples and your other ingredients. In the long run, this is usually a more economical option too. Not only are you eating healthier, you’re spending your money wisely too. If you are looking for a simple applesauce recipe, you can find it right here.

Make vegan sour cream using tofu

Tofu is a wonderful high protein, low fat food. Use it as a replacement for condiments in your meals where animal-based products may normally be used. This will increase the overall protein value of your meal while eliminating the overconsumption of animal products.  There is a tofu sour cream recipe in this Jewish cookbook.

Serve water based drinks like fruit infused waters, soda water with natural syrups rather than soda and boxed juices.

Next to removing fried foods from your holiday table this season, getting rid of sugar-heavy beverages is the easiest change to make to have a healthier Hanukkah. There are an overwhelming amount of benefits to reducing your overall sugar consumption. From reduced health risks to better brain power to clearer skin, there’s a reason for everyone to lower their sugar consumption for themselves and their loved ones.

To our healthier Hanukkah!

Your turn:  Share your favorite healthy tip for Hanukkah in the comments below.

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Open Letter to Chabad from Jewish Food Hero: Food for Thought


Dear Chabad,

This open letter focuses on Chabad food operations worldwide, with a proposal to adopt a meat reduction approach, and to incorporate more plant-based foods into the meals they serve worldwide to Jews and non-Jewish guests.  

Good to know:  This open letter does not suggest that the Chabad movement adopt vegetarianism or veganism.

First, I want to thank all the Chabad houses and emissaries who have welcomed me since I left the US in 2005. Thank you specifically to the Chabad houses with whom I have had personal contact: India, Democratic Republic of Congo, Switzerland, Cambodia, Vietnam, Thailand, Nepal, and Puerto Rico (read about their relief efforts here).


The four most vital things Chabad has shared with me are:

  • A space to pray
  • A priceless sense of belonging to a global Jewish community
  • Kosher food
  • Access to their libraries

If you are reading this letter and do not know about Chabad’s impact, here are some astounding stats (all from

  • Chabad-Lubavitch is the largest and fastest growing Jewish organization.
  • Today, 4,000 Chabad-Lubavitch emissary families, or shluchim, operate 3,500 institutions, in 100 countries, with activities in many more.
  • Chabad on Campus provides services to students and faculty at 400 campuses, with 200 permanent campus centers.
  • Chabad on Campus is active on dozens of campuses outside of the United States. Some countries include Canada, Israel, UK, Austria, Germany, France, Holland, Hungary, Italy, Russia, Argentina, China, and Australia.

Our 12-year (and still going strong) relationship really started in 2005 while I was volunteering in Chennai, India with the American Jewish World Service. I called Rabbi Gavriel and Rivka Holtzberg (may they RIP) at the Chabad house in Mumbai.  They spoke with me and warmly invited me to Mumbai for the High Holidays. The experience of knowing I had a “Jewish home” wherever I was in the world made an impact on me.  

When I moved to work in the Democratic Republic of Congo (DRC) from 2006-2008, my husband and I rented an apartment across the street from the Chabad house by coincidence (if there is such a thing) and our relationship got much more serious. We spent almost every Shabbat and holiday with the DRC Jewish community. My happiest memories of my time in DR Congo are of being at Shabbat dinners hosted by Rabbi Shlomo and Rebbetzin Miriam Bentolila.

Today, even though we live five hours away from the Chabad synagogue in Phnom Penh,Cambodia, we attend holiday services. Rabbi Bentzion and Rebbetzin Mashie Butman communicate with us regularly and send us Jewish props and books for holidays by taxi (I am serious, they really do this for us!).

During all these years, I read the following books (all of which I highly recommend):

Toward a Meaningful Life: The Wisdom of the Rebbe Menachem Mendel Schneerson

The Rebbe’s Army: Inside the World of Chabad-Lubavitch

Rebbe: The Life and Teachings of Menachem M. Schneerson, the Most Influential Rabbi in Modern History

I donate money to Chabad every year and I can honestly say that even though I am not transitioning to orthodox Jewish life, I appreciate and value Chabad’s mission and work. If I was writing on social media, I would write I 💗 Chabad. (FYI that is the “growing heart” Emoji).

I also have an appreciation for the thousands, maybe tens of thousands of kosher meals Chabad serves to guests, every week and all over the world. Chabad’s food service operation is an extraordinary logistical feat. It includes procurement and transport of kosher food worldwide, cooking huge quantities of food in their kosher kitchens, and feeding our global Jewish community in their dining rooms and restaurants.   

Hence, Chabad’s food operation has a big impact on our health and environment because of the sheer volume of food and the number of people served. The food that Chabad’s choose to serve has an immediate and lasting impact on kosher animal husbandry and slaughter, our environment, and on our physical and spiritual well-being.

What Chabad might consider doing to use its incredible influence to support best practices:

  • Serve more fresh vegetables and fruits.
  • Serve more tubers, whole grains, and legumes.
  • Serve less meat, dairy, eggs, highly processed foods, and less vegetable oil (including margarine and mayonnaise).

When serving meat or other animal proteins:

  • Serve ethical kosher meat.
  • Serve animal protein in only one course at each community meal. In today’s world, there is no need to have an animal protein appetizer and an animal product based soup and then an animal protein main course.
  • Serve smaller portions of meat: If we focus on meat, fish, and dairy as condiments, not the focal point of the meal, we can serve smaller portions of animal products. As a guideline, no more than 4 oz (113 g) or less per meal.
  • Consider preparing and hosting 1 vegan/vegetarian Shabbat dinner per month or quarter.

Why am I proposing these positive dietary shifts? Here are some benefits to eating plant-based food:

Benefit #1: Mood and Energy Levels

Ever notice how a few hours after you eat that cookie, your energy plummets and your mood worsens? Eating plant-based food can stabilize your mood and energy levels throughout the day.

Benefit #2: Environmental  

Food consumption and agricultural practices impact the health of our environment, too. In particular, factory farming and other large-scale meat and dairy production contribute to climate change.

Benefit #3: Disease Prevention

Here’s a sample of the common health problems that can be prevented or improved when you eat a plant-based diet: diabetes, heart disease, obesity, acne, intestinal diseases, depression, fatigue, liver disease, kidney disease, high blood pressure, and more.

The changes proposed may increase the joy of Chabad community meals while positively impacting tens of thousands of Jewish people and the environment, now and in the future.  



Kenden Alfond

Jewish Food Hero Founder

Your turn: In the comments, share other constructive ideas to improve our health and the environment.


From the Jewish Food Hero Kitchen: Georgian Beet Chickpea and Walnut Salad

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Yes, it is true that for Hanukkah to feel like Hanukkah, we will eat latkes and sufganiyot. One way to make Hanukkah healthier is to bake the latkes and donuts, rather than deep frying them.  

Recipes for baked latkes and baked strawberry glazed sufganiyot are available in the Jewish Food Hero cookbook right here.

Another way to make Hanukkah healthier is to simply add more healthy food to our holiday table. Just eating latkes and donuts (even if they are healthy versions of these foods) will not leave us feeling satisfied. Add some some fresh vegetables to your Hanukkah table this year.  

I created this Beet Walnut Salad for Hanukkah after reading about the Georgian Jewish community (Georgia the Baltic state) in Gil Mark’s cookbook, Olive Trees and Honey: A Treasury of Vegetarian Recipes from Jewish Communities Around the World.  According to Mark’s, popular plant-based foods in Georgian Jewish communities include beets and walnuts. The preferred Georgia taste is sour.   

This salad includes beets, chickpeas, walnuts, and fresh green lettuce. The pink dressing is tangy-sour from citrus and creamy from walnuts.

From the Jewish Food Hero Kitchen: Georgian Beet Chickpea and Walnut Salad
From the Jewish Food Hero Kitchen: Georgian Beet Chickpea and Walnut Salad
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  • Large salad bowl
  • 2 small prep bowls
  • Blender
  • Garlic press
  • Citrus reamer
  • 3 cups beets, large dice
  • 1 cup chickpeas
  • 1-2 shallot, sliced thin
  • 1-3 cups of green lettuce, chopped
  • ½ cup orange juice, freshly squeezed
  • ¼ cup lemon juice
  • 1-2 garlic cloves
  • 4 walnut halves
  • 1 tsp salt
  • 1-2 tsp rapadura sugar
  • Garnish: chopped walnut pieces

  1. A few hours before making the salad, boil the beets until tender and set aside to cool
  2. Soak the walnuts
  3. When you are ready to make salad:
  4. Peel and dice the beets into large cube sized pieces and set aside
  5. Combine the beets, shallots and chickpeas into a large prep bowl
  6. Place all dressing ingredients into blender and blend into smooth
  7. There are two ways to present this salad:
  8. Option 1: Dress the beets, shallots, and chickpeas and allow to marinate in the dressing for up to 24 hours. This makes the dressing pink and also creates a lovely taste. When you are ready to serve, mix in 1-3 cups of chopped lettuce. Garnish with crushed walnuts
  9. Option 2: Keep all the ingredients separate (as shown in the photo) and serve the dressing on the side. If you want pink dressing, add a few pieces of cooked beet to the dressing before you blend it. Garnish with crushed walnuts.

; Yield: Serves 4-6

If you like this recipe, you’ll love The Jewish Food Hero Cookbook: 50 Simple Plant Based Recipes For Your Holiday Meals

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Hanukkah 2017: Snail Mail Hanukkah Card (Printer-Friendly Download)

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Hanukkah Snail Mail Hanukkah Card

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Traditional mail is still a viable way to connect with people, especially during Hanukkah. Snail mail makes us all feel special.

Here are three modern and beautiful Hanukkah cards that you can download and print at home or at a print shop.

Hanukkah Snail Mail Hanukkah Card

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These cards feature a simplistic design with natural elements, to make these cards feel extra special to the recipient. You can print the card on a heavy stock paper or paper with a texture that enhances the design.

This Hanukkah card is available for immediate download and comes in a high quality (300 dpi) PDF file for ease of printing. When you download the file you will receive one PDF that contains three Hanukkah illustration cards.

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This printable Hanukkah card is simple to put together.

You need:

  • A4 white card stock (or another color of your choice)
  • scissors
  • Black and white or color printer (a home printer works fine for these and going to your local print shop is also a good option)
  • Envelopes

You can make these alone and also enlist your children to help.

Use these cards to wish your family, friends and co-workers “Happy Hanukkah”. You can send these cards via snail mail and/or use them to adorn your presents.

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Hanukkah 2017: Gift Tags (Printer-Friendly Download)

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Hanukkah Gift Tags

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It is Hanukkah again. Let’s adorn our gifts with modern and beautiful gift tags.  

These are modern and beautiful Hanukkah gift tags that you can download and print at home.

Hanukkah Gift Tags

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These Hanukkah gift tags are available for immediate download and comes in a high quality (300 dpi) PDF file for ease of printing. When you download the file you will receive one PDF that contains eight Hanukkah gift tags.

Hanukkah Gift Tags

These printable Hanukkah gift tags are simple to make.

You need:

  • A4 white cardstock paper
  • scissors
  • single hole punch
  • color printer (a home printer works fine for these and going to your local print shop is also a good option)
  • Twine or ribbon

You can make these alone and also enlist your children to help.

Use these to decorate gifts for your family, friends and co-workers.

May these tags make your gifts more beautiful. Chag Sameach.

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P.S.  Download our snail mail Hanukkah card here.

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Hanukkah 2017: Ethical Chanukah Gift Guide for Good Women

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Ethical Chanukah Gift Guide for Good Women

Women are thoughtful.  For most Jewish women Chanukah means buying something for someone else; for her parents, her partner, her children, and even her boss.

In this gift guide for women I wanted to give ethical gift ideas to delight woman for Hanukkah.  

In this guide you will find varied products of different price points.  The thing they have in common is that they are made by companies whose mission is ethical.

Ethical Chanukah Gift Guide for Good Women

Here are 9 ethical gift ideas for good women:

Vrai and Oro– The gift of jewelry is classic, ensure that you are gifting your loved ones ethical and responsibly sourced jewelry. Vrai and Oro have a selection of elegant, simple pieces and ensure the cost of the jewelry reflects the craftsmanship of their work, without the jeweler’s typical markup!

Kishe Coffee– Do you have a coffee lover in your life? Gift them beautiful high-quality, sustainable Guatemalan coffee beans. Kishee coffee aims to embrace organic agriculture while providing financial stability to Guatemalan farmer families. Pick between the Volcan, Woman, or Reserve beans each with their own unique attributes both ethically and in the roast of the bean.

Maine Sea Salt– Maine Sea Salt was founded by a loving couples passion for food. This is a beautiful, natural process, Kosher sea salt straight from Buck’s Harbor, Maine. The salt water is taken from the harbor and evaporated in shallow pools creating natural sea salt that does not contain any drying agents.

Hu Chocolate– This amazing chocolate was born out of self discovery and the slippery slope of asking, what’s really in our food? Hu Chocolate contains no additives, preservatives, gums, refined sugars, or any of the typical ingredients you find in regular processed chocolate. Give the gift of something that tastes so good they won’t believe it’s also good for them.

Ethical Chanukah Gift Guide for Good Women

Crystals– Kacha Stones focuses on providing ethical, hand mined crystals working closely with individual miners that they’ve shared relationships with for years. These beautiful crystals are consciously stored in a way that prevents unwanted energy being picked up by the stones until they make their way to your recipient.

Nicely Noted– For the writer in your life this monthly stationery subscription could be just the perfect thing. Each month they will receive beautiful letterpress cards fit for every occasion. These simple designs allow the writer to speak from the heart and send along a cards whenever they need to, without an added trip to the convenience store.

Seed + Mill Halva – We all eat sweets during the holidays so giving healthier sweets is more supportive for women.  Halva is made from nutritious sesame seeds.  Seed + Mill offer a gluten-free, kosher and vegan halva that is divine!  Their selection includes traditional halva varieties like marble, pistachio or rose oil. They also offer more unique flavor combinations like white chocolate & lemon, ginger, cardamom or sea salt dark chocolate.

Sabonato Soap-  What touches our bodies is important and most women I know like to use natural products in the shower or bath (we want to feel clean in that organic sort of way). The Keshet family takes special pride in its all natural soap.  Each bar a fusion of pure, high quality oils, authentic Dead Sea mud, salts and minerals, and organic, fragrant plants.  The soap has “good vibrations” and gives you a  healthy washing experience that cleanses the body and awakens the soul with its intoxicating scents.

One of these knives!– I personally own one of these beautiful knives and I would love to give it away to one of you. Keep an eye out for our December blog post where I’ll have a link for you to enter a drawing to win one of these knives. Crafted from fine carbon steel with bog oak handles these knives have a rustic feel with the pleasure of being artisan made.

P.S. I created a Hanukkah 2017: Non Tech Hanukkah Gift Guide for Calm Kids right here.

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Hanukkah 2017: Non Tech Gift Guide For Calm Children

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Non Tech Gift Guide For Calm Children

Most of the children I know don’t need more things. Most children I know could benefit from more uninterrupted hands-on experiences with adults.

This year, I want to focus on non tech gifts we can do with our children to bring more calm energy into our children’s homes and hearts.

Non Tech Gift Guide For Calm Children

Here are seven calming gift ideas that you can order online:

Hands On Experiences

Potholder loom – This potholder loom is a childhood classic and wonderfully simple, allowing you to enjoy this activity with your child at home, on road trips, and at family gatherings. The soft pieces of fabric come in fantastic bold colors to allow individual creativity to be expressed in their weaving. Hand-weaving has a traditional history and adds value as a way to include education in your child’s gift.

Plump Flump Beginner Knitting Kit – Do you know a child who has restless hands? Knitting is a great way to keep hands occupied with the enjoyment of seeing the results of your work as you go. Enjoy learning a new skill with your children with this perfect beginner’s kit, everything you need is included in the gift to get started. This product is artisan-made and supports a small business owner.

Growing Crystals – If you have a curious child, these growing crystals are a perfect way to get them involved with a hands-on science experiment. This kit includes a fun display case for them to keep their crystal creations in and contains enough solution to create 7 crystals in all. This gift is best for children 10 and older and does require some adult supervision.

Indigo Tie Dye Kit – Enjoy this natural dyeing kit with your children and see what wearable art you can create together. The kit includes gloves, rubber bands, dye, and instructions to get started. Teach your children the beauty of unpredictability by not knowing exactly how your creations will turn out. This kit is able to dye up to 15 shirts or 5 pounds of clothing.

Pop up Paper house – A beautiful idea that is economical, space-saving, and engaging from start to finish. Allow your child to make their own pop up paper doll house with easy to follow guides and eight rooms of playtime fun. This wonderful gift is designed to be easy to pack up and put away, rarely seen in children’s dollhouses which makes it pleasing for the whole family.

Lakeshore Build-It-Yourself Woodworking Kit – This is another wonderful building kit with simple but more detailed construction. With 80 pieces in all an instructions for multiple projects you and your child can work on building toys together that have a simple, clean design. What I enjoy most about these pieces are the lack of plastics or branding, keeping your child’s toys free from branding messaging allows their imagination to soar.

Djeco puzzles:  Paris, Abracadabra, Poetic Boat – Puzzles are a simple and classic family pastime, with 100 pieces these beautiful and heavily illustrated puzzles allow your child to explore each piece and the puzzle as a whole. Each puzzle offers a different scene with many visual elements displayed throughout.

3-D puzzles: Taj Mahal, The Colosseum – These are fun puzzles with a twist. Include an added element of challenge with 3-D interlocking puzzles. Many of these puzzles come are historical pieces of architecture or from moments in history like The Titanic. Beautifully constructed, these puzzles can be displayed afterwards as a collectible item for your child that allows them to engage and discover history through architecture in a unique way.

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Your Turn: Do you have a non tech Hanukkah gift you love to give? Share yours with us here!

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Hanukkah 2017: Printable Meal Template to Simplify Hanukkah

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Hanukkah Printable Meal Template

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Taking time to thoughtfully plan meals is an supportive way to eat healthier anytime. This is even more true during the holidays. Meal planning templates will also help you feel more organized and calm before and during Hanukkah.

Hanukkah Printable Meal Template

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This Hanukkah meal planning template is available for immediate download and comes in a high quality (300 dpi) PDF file for ease of printing. When you download the file you will receive one PDF that contains two Hanukkah meal templates.

Hanukkah Printable Meal Template

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This printable Hanukkah meal planning template is simple to use.

You need:

  • A4 paper
  • Printer (a home printer works fine for these and going to your local print shop is also a good option)

You can complete these meal plans alone and/or also enlist your family to help.

Towards a healthier Hanukkah!

Your turn:  Tell us what you think of these Hanukkah meal planning templates!  Feedback welcome.

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Supportive Jewish Quotes on Parenting That Feel Mostly True

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Jewish Quotes on Parenting

Here are Jewish quotes on parenting to inform and inspire our self-understanding and actions.

At every age, our feelings and thoughts about our parents shifts as we learn more about our parents as individuals and increase our own self-understanding. If we have our own children, how we see and feel about ourselves as parents evolves as we learn to care and love our children.

One thing is constant: there is a deep and unequivocal attachment between parents and children. May these quotes support and inspire you in your role parent and child.  

One final note: The quotes from classical Jewish texts sometimes refer specifically to a “son” or a “daughter”, and other times refer to “children”. In some cases, it may be helpful to apply the general idea of the quote to both sons and daughters and other times not. The point is that we strive to distil and learn from the varied texts of our tradition.  

In disputes between parents and children, the children always get the upper hand.

-Achad Ha’am

Achad Ha'am Quote

Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person’s character lies in their own hands. “

-Anne Frank

Anne Frank Quote

In the final analysis it is not what you do for your children but what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make them successful human beings.

-Ann Landers

Ann Landers Quote

Little children are a headache and big ones a heartache.

-Chananya Reichman

Chananya Reichman

And you shall love the Lord your God with all of your heart and all of your strength and all your might. And these words which I command you today shall remain in your heart. And you shall teach them diligently to your children and speak of them when you are sitting in your home and when you are walking on your way and when you lie down and when you rise up.

-Deuteronomy 6:4-8

Deuteronomy Quote

A mother understands what a child does not say.

-Jewish Proverb

Jewish Proverb

No rain without thunders, no children without pangs.

-Ladino Proverb

Ladino Proverb Quote

Children aren’t stupid, and they feel valued when we treat them with respect.

-Mayim Bialik

Mayim Bialik Quote

The best part about being friends with your parents is that no matter what you do, they have to keep loving you.

-Natalie Portman

Natalie Portman Quote

What God is to the world, parents are to their children.


Philo Quote

Train up a child in the way he should go and even when he is old he will not depart from it.

-Proverbs 22:6

Proverbs 22 Quote

Despise not your mother, when she is old!

-Proverbs (Mishie) 23:22

Proverbs 23 Quote

A daughter only tells her secrets to her mother.


Rashi Quote

When you teach your son, you teach your son’s son.


Talmud Quote

“Our Rabbis taught:

A father has the following obligations towards his son-

to circumcise him, to redeem him, if he is a firstborn, to teach him Torah, to find him a wife, and to teach him a craft or a trade.

And there are some who say that he must also teach him how to swim.”

-Talmud: Kiddushin 29a

Talmud Kiddushin Quote

Never promise something to a child and not give it to him, because in that way he learns to lie.

-Talmud, Sukkah

Talmud Sukkah Quote

When you teach your daughter, you teach your daughter’s daughter.

-Adapted from the Talmud

Adapted Talmud Quote

Jewish wisdom holds that our children don’t belong to us. They are both a loan and a gift from God, and the gift has strings attached. Our job is to raise our children to leave us. The children’s job is to find their own path in life. If they stay carefully protected in the nest of the family, children will become weak and fearful or feel too comfortable to want to leave.

-Wendy Mogel

Wendy Mogel Quote

Your turn:  Which quotation means the most to you in this season of life?

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7 Reasons for Jewish Women to be in the Picture

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Jewish Women in the Picture

I was scrolling in a private FB group for women and I read a post a woman wrote about struggling to include herself in family photos. So many women commented in agreement, empathy and support.  

In the FB thread, women gave four primary reasons for staying out of photos:

  • Never being explicitly asked to be the “subject” of the photo
  • Being the designated family photographer
  • Feeling “fat”or above her ideal weight
  • Feeling ill at ease about her appearance because she does not always have time to apply makeup, brush or blow dry her hair, or even shower sometimes.

When my daughter was around 3 years old (in 2013), I was organizing our electronic photos and realized that I was almost entirely absent from our family’s photographic memories.

I am doing better to include myself in our family photographs and I am not completely healed.

I imagine many of us have had thoughts like:

  • “I’ll wait till next time”
  • “When I lose a few more pounds I’ll enjoy seeing myself in photos more.”
  • “When I have more time to take care of myself”
  • “It is more important to capture the kids”

As a woman and mother it may be easier for us to be the woman behind the camera. Yes, it probably is true we want to capture more photographs of our children than of ourselves. It is also true that it is mistake to exclude yourself from your family photographic record.

Jewish Women in the Picture

Here are the 7 reasons to give yourself full permission to be in the picture:

  • The idea that “time flies” is a truism. It is even more true when we are raising our children. You will never get this period of your life back.  
  • Photographs allow all of us build our connection to memories and you deserve to be a part of your family’s memories.
  • I have yet to hear a child pass such harsh judgement on their mother’s appearance in a photo, have you?  
  • One day you will die and will no longer be here physically with your children. When that time comes, photographs will comfort your children. Think about how important it is for you to see photographs of your mother and grandmother.  
  • If you are not feeling good about your body weight, keeping yourself invisible is an ineffective strategy to feel better. Keeping yourself invisible actually perpetuates the suffering. Better to start eating healthy and moving your body today and allow yourself to be photographed today.
  • If you feel like you never have any time to take care of your appearance to be photo ready, chances are you feel that way about your whole life and not just photos. Again here, better to start claiming time the time you need to “put yourself together” (according to your personal standards).
  • Many years from now when your children are grown, imagine that your daughter comes to you with the same issue of making herself invisible. What will you say to support her?

One of the beautiful benefits of modern technology is the ease we have at capturing stages of our lives. Photographs can give a lasting record of our family life.

What needs to happen next for you to allow yourself to be in the picture?

Your Turn: Does this resonate with you? Please share a time you neglected to include yourself in a family photo based on how you felt about yourself or a time you overcame that feeling and chose to include yourself in the photograph.

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